Fear of Failure . . . Afraid to Finish


AAAWriting is a solitary effort. There’s no one to talk to at the water cooler. Finding other authors who have experienced the same things you are, who can prod you on when you need it, and shoot the $hi# on command, can make the process of writing a novel just a little less painful. Case in point: I recently had a venting session with one such friend of mine, and discovered something I hadn’t realized before. I am afraid of finishing my book. Sounds crazy, right? Having spent so many years on it, you’d think I’d be raring at the bit to set the thing free. But . . . I’m not. In fact, my writing output has slowed to such a crawl that the last three chapters have taken me five months. quotescover-JPG-73Even that might not be so bad, if this wasn’t my second draft. But, it is. The bottom line is I should be moving along faster. I’ve talked about the importance of author swagger before here. But, you know what else is important? Finishing the goddamned book. Having something to back that “swagger” up. What’s stopping me from moving forward (you may wonder)? After talking to my friend, I realized it’s the fear of failure. I LOVE the idea behind my book. I love it so much that I feel like it could be really successful. I’ve created a world where I can add sequels and prequels my whole writing career if I wanted. But, as a new author, I’m also afraid that I might not write it properly: that I might ultimately fail the story. Instead of sitting down and typing it out, I’ve been distracting myself with Twitter, my Facebook Author Page, reviewing my critiquing partners’ submissions, and this very blog. Not mention my hellions . . . what’s that? The boys are trying to start a block of wood on fire with a magnifying glass? What’s that? The wood is attached to my HOUSE??

quotescover-JPG-20In the past few months, I spent the short eight weeks of hot(ish) weather Prince Edward Islanders enjoy playing with my kids and messing around with social media, and when I tried sitting down at my computer in the fall, I was SHOCKED at just how hard it was to type words onto my keyboard. Writing became painful. After a mere half-hour or so my brain actually hurt. When my writing muscles recovered from their eight weeks off, I found myself bungled by some rather unfortunate plot-holes. Then I started a new job. And, last week, I received a really, really great promotion. It’s a promotion so good that after years of contributing to the financial security of our household in bits and pieces, I am now in a position where I can earn quite a bit more. It means more money, more job security, and more hours. Which is great, not only for myself, but for my family. But, it’s not so great for my writing time.

Even though I’m happy with my promotion and the extra hours (and dollar dollar bills, y’all) that go along with it, and even though writing can be incredibly HARD, ultimately, writing is what I want to do. So now that I’m aware of what my brain is doing, that I’m subconsciously allowing myself to be distracted because of a innate fear that my book is going to suck and all this swagger will have been for NOTHING, what am I going to do about it? Well, I’m going to . . .Write

I’ve put myself in a time-out. It means I’ve had to make some of the same choices as countless other authors before me. The time has come to minimize critiquing my partners’ submissions. It means that if I want to finish this book and thrive in my new job, I have to quit everything that doesn’t really matter. I’m talking to you, social media.

So, if you’re looking around one day and wondering where I’ve gone, here’s the answer. I am writing. I have four chapters to go before I tackle some pretty big revisions and then try to grab an agent.

See you at the finish line.

14 thoughts on “Fear of Failure . . . Afraid to Finish

  1. I hadn’t wondered where you’d gone … you were finishing your book remember … the operative word is finish … so … do you need 4 more chapters? … do you need to keep asking yourself if you can write … we know you can … so … ever so politely I say … put your arse in gear and get the book out there … I WANT to read the damn thing … and its sequels!

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  2. Hi Allen, thanks for this message. Really needed it. It’s true that as writers we are solitary humans. And I must admit that I have been putting off writing a novel that I had attempted about 5 months ago. I think it’s because finding the next plot just puts me off. It’s not like writing the non fiction that I am quite used to. Thanks once again for reminding me about sitting down and starting. The social media has become more of a distraction than a help and I even found myself uninstalling the app rather than participating. Thanks again. Shalom Denzil .

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  3. I’m glad you found the post a helpful reminder. Getting caught up by a fear of failure (and these days, social media) has been the downfall of countless novels, I’m sure. Recognizing the problem is the first step to moving forward!
    All the best moving forward with your work in progress.

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  4. Enjoyed your post. Many writers can’t finish their books. Also, many painters can’t finish their paintings. Because it is a psychological phenomenon that for one reason or another which no one has been able to explain adequately, most people relax in the vicinity of their goals, either when they near them or when they have achieved them. Virtually everybody on earth has trouble finishing things. That also affects athletes. For example, track athletes are taught not to run to the tape but to run through it. So you most prod yourself on, telling yourself, “Come on; run through the tape. Finish this thing.” Also, congratulations on your promotion.

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    • I’ve heard that many writers suffer from the same fear of failure as me. But, I never considered that painters might have the same problem. I like the idea of “running through the tape.” That might be the just the mindset I need to finish this thing!
      As always, thank you for the kind words. It’s great when you stop by.

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  7. I was shocked to see this page! It was totally irrational for me to think I was the only one going through this process but somehow I had that idea inside my head, typing out less than 100 words per day because I was afraid of ending the story! Thank you.

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